Dig out of a therapy

The therapy has been part of Katerina Kelly’s weekly routine since primary school when a teacher suggested advice for the 8-year-old.

At that time, hangover of autism influenced their ability to manage time, make decisions and make contacts. And the therapist seemed helpful for many years. But as soon as the college rolled around, things changed.

“I always left the advice when I either started worse than I started – or deaf,” said MX. Kelly, 29, who lives in Natick, Mass and uses pronouns.

She hadn’t translated the skills that Mx. Kelly’s therapist had not translated as well in childhood after they were older. In other words, they had hit a rut – the therapy and the therapist did not achieve the desired results.

Therapy glasses can be disappointed, but it does not have to end her striving for better mental health. We asked psychologists how to find out whether they have reached a sticking point and what they should do about it.

What exactly is therapy rod?

If you have hit a fear, you may have the feeling that you will get your therapy sessions to a standstill or not to have become helpful, said Jameca Woody Cooper, President of the Missouri Psychological Association.

You can trust your therapist emotionally or less if you trust your plan. Perhaps you are uncomfortable and tense during therapy or started to fear or miss appointments, Dr. Woody Cooper added.

A fear can lead to “increased irritability during the session or a misunderstood feeling,” she said.

There are many reasons why moisture can occur, the experts said:

• At this point you made as much progress as possible in therapy.

• You would benefit from another therapist or approach.

• You need a new therapy goal.

• You don’t need meetings as often as in the past.

• Your expectations are not with that of your therapist.

• You are not ready to explore earlier trauma or a difficult problem.

MX. Kelly had experienced some of these roadblocks in her relationship with her childhood therapist.

“When I tried to address new things, I was told that we could work on it at the next meeting, but that never came,” they said. “I hit a point where I felt so low.”

So MX. Kelly started looking for a new therapist – it took more than six months, but they found someone to take out their insurance and fit better.

If you feel stuck, your therapist ideally feels it, said Regine Galanti, a therapist in Long Island who specializes in the treatment of anxiety with exposure therapy.

“If I have the same conversations for more than two weeks in a row – that lets my warning bells go,” she said.

Then it is time to re -evaluate a customer’s therapy goals, she added.

What can you do about a gymnastics?

Do not jump with the weapon by leaving the therapy after one or two unproductive sessions, experts said.

“Unfortunately, it is not unusual to occasionally have a therapy session that feels like a guy,” said Alayna Park, assistant professor of psychology at the University of Oregon.

But if after three or four sessions you have the feeling that you do not learn new coping skills or to better understand your problem, then it is time to comment on the session or in an e -mail.

Dr. Park suggested a few ways to start the discussion: “I have the feeling that my progress has stalled” or “I want to pass on new or different coping skills” or simply: “I feel in a therapy shrill.”

It is also valuable to ask your therapists how many sessions you may need, how your progress should look like and how your therapist will measure him, said Bethany A. Teachman, professor of psychology and director of clinical training at the University of Virginia.

Although some people can make it to express their concerns, a good therapist is not angry or angry.

“Good therapy authorizes patients” to do hard things, said Dr. Teachman.

How do you know if it’s time to take a break?

If you have talked to your therapist about your concerns and has not changed, you may want to take a break.

Cedging can “offer a feeling of the agency and time to evaluate whether the current therapeutic relationship is the right one,” said Dr. Woody Cooper.

During this break, you can take your time to think about your feelings and behavior, explore different types of therapy or try out another therapist.

Annie Herzig, an author and illustrator who in Fort Collins, Colorado, lives, decided, after a few months in which she had seen a new therapist, take a step back when she had not noticed any improvement in her mood.

Ms. Herzig, 43, finally sent her therapist an e -mail in which she said she didn’t get what she needed from her meetings.

Taking the time was helpful – Ms. Herzig found another therapist who has seen her for four years now.

“In the end I feel energetic,” said Ms. Herzig about her meetings. “Even if I miss my eyes.”